There is a blissful ignorance when you first start out on your career path that we take for granted in our twenties. Knowing you have all the time in the world to figure out your niche, so you jump in with two feet whether you fail or succeed. Then you turn thirty and everything changes. You've established where you are in most cases, you may be managing or directing a department, and as cliche as it sounds, that blissful ignorance turns into a mindset based on outcomes you experience during your budding career that may end up killing everything you've work for.
In your thirties and beyond self-assuredness is one of the most important things that you can master. Unfortunately, that is not always the case. Doubt and fear are the two biggest culprits as you move throughout your career, and the voice that talks us up also can set us back by making us believe we are limited.
1. The new generation is better than me. - Let's be honest. There is always going to be someone who is better at something than you. Especially if there are new technologies in your field of work. The truth is, just like when we entered the workforce we focused on one key thing, so we were valuable. Instead of fearing that, embrace it and spin it to your benefit. If you learn what someone does better than you, you can now do that task along with the multitudes of other tasks they are slowly learning from you.
2. I don't matter. - Stop. You do matter. While many will have you believe confidence exudes in droves during your thirties, there are still quite a few things that you are working on, and that is ok. Start having bigger picture conversations with your boss. Request that they share how your contribution to the organization affect the whole picture. You will begin to understand where you fit and how you matter.
3. You shouldn't be here. - Everyone has an idea of where they want to end up, but half of the fun of getting there is the journey you take. If we all started and the starting line, took one step and ended the race, it would be a pretty sad story. You are where you are supposed to be, and even if you start to feel like it is time to move on, the journey to do that is still a part of the overall goal. The best piece of advice we all learned in our twenties was not to burn bridges, the same applies throughout your career. Stay positive and understand when you are meant to move something will present itself and it will feel right. Until then, enjoy the journey and know you are exactly where you belong.